what is?

perception of reality, we all have this in our heads like a wet dense tea bag filtering everything we hear. we can't hear any other way but through the combined knowledge that is our history of experience. so if I say blue you picture your blue. my blue is different. if I say you look rested. you hear, was I looking stressed? the only solution is to listen real hard and then ask questions. what did you hear me say?it is so much work to sort out all the muck we wade through just to hear each other. i want to start over clean and fresh. morning yoga cleans the mind for a few minutes but by the time I drive to work and walk in the door I am back to hearing through my old wet tea bag.
once in a while we can really hear each other. I don't know why this happens, maybe when I am really relaxed, let down all my defenses and just listen. nothing to gain or lose. just be. very hard to do.